Sometimes the right thing and the hardest thing are the same thing.
As I dissect my life and search inside of myself I struggle to make decisions that I know are right but are hard. We all shy away from the hard choices… it’s easier to take the option that is less painful and less work; whether that be emotional or otherwise. Like a lot of people, I don’t enjoy hurting other people’s feelings and making someone else uncomfortable. That has translated at times in my life as staying in relationships that are no longer viable. That no longer fulfill me. This applies to romantic and non-romantic relationships. It’s not fair or right for my life, but also for the other person. Consideration for another persons feelings is paramount but that can’t be at the expense of being true to myself. There is kindness, always, but there has to be truth.
On a broader view…Continuing on a path that is, at best, indifferent, is no way to live a life. Whether that be relationships, a job, where you live or how you live… we usually know the answers we ask ourselves. The real courage and strength is in listening and taking the action that you know you need to take.
For me, it’s now a matter of asking myself some simple questions when faced with a decision… Will my choice bring me closer to or further from my truth and joy? Am I honouring my Self by making the decision I’m making or conceding to what is easy? Will I be able to look back at this and be proud of my integrity in the choice I made?
It means that for a lot of circumstances, the answer won’t be the easy route… but it will be the right one.